Our Zeta Babies, Not So Much (Warning: Extreme Cuteness)

It’s Bid Day, and in a few minutes, you are about to meet the future of your chapter! An exciting moment. The soon-to-be sisters who are about to run toward you represent the next generation of best friends, Little Sisters, study buddies and leaders of your chapter. There is a lot riding on their amazing-ness.

You hope they are as intelligent, kind, friendly, fun, involved and driven as they came across in recruitment! But yet … sometimes, our ZTA sisters call them “our Zeta babies.”

It just doesn’t add up.

While we understand that Zetas who use this term likely mean it as a term of endearment, new members are not babies. If we want them to be the members and leaders we recruited them to be, we need to call them and treat them like the women they are.

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8 Ways New Members Can Bond Without Hazing

One of the notorious excuses for hazing is it promotes group unity. Research shows that most members who have been hazed don’t feel that it made them closer (Allan & Madden, 2008).

A positive new member experience creates unity and strengthens their love for ZTA all at once. Below are just a few ways new members can bond without hazing as a part of the process.

Go out for ice cream or frozen yogurt. Just watch your face.

Play intramural sports together, like softball, soccer or volleyball.
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Your VP II-New Member Coordinator can organize a new member retreat/sleepover.

Learn about the beautiful history and values of Zeta Tau Alpha through new member meetings.
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Watch an awards show together and see if you can predict the next fall from Jennifer Lawrence. Remember this one?

Help a sister out by studying together.
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Eat anything and everything with strawberries in it.

Play fun games and team-building activities to get to know each other.
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Reference: Allan, E.J & Madden, M. (2008). Hazing in view: College students at risk. Retrieved from http://umaine.edu/hazingresearch/files/2012/10/hazing_in_view_web.pdf

Quiz: What type of Big Sister are you?

Hazing has no place in ZTA, especially between a Big and Little Sister. ZTA sisterhood is many things, but hazing is NOT one of them.

Take this Buzzfeed-style quiz to find out which on-screen big sister portrays your relationship with your Little. This quiz is totally (not) science-based.

BigSisQuizJoin the National Hazing Prevention Week conversation on social media by tagging #NHPW14 and #ZTASisterhoodIs.

Sisterhood Is…

We’re kicking off National Hazing Prevention Week 2014 by bringing you some of the best things ZTA has to offer.

ZTA sisterhood means different things to each of us. What does sisterhood mean to you? Let us know what you would add to this list by using the hashtag #ZTASisterhoodIs.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Accepting someone for who they truly are.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Looking out for each another.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Sincere, open and honest.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Being there for you when you need some tough love.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Making each other smile.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Working together toward a common goal.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Being trusting and supportive of each other.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Standing up for one another in times of need.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… “Synchronized lady dancing…” during recruitment or a campus performance.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Timeless and unconditional—even when someone might not want our Zeta Love at that moment.

ZTA Sisterhood Is… Commitment to preventing and confronting hazing.

ZTA supports HazingPrevention.Org and National Hazing Prevention Week (#NHPW14). To be part of our celebration, fill in the blank on Twitter.
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9 Ways to Stand Up to Hazing

We’ve seen the movie. We’ve heard the stories. Someone is in a situation in which they are being hazed or are witnessing someone being hazed…and they let it happen even though they know it is wrong.

We’re here to empower you to stand up to hazing! Yes, it can often be difficult to stand up for what is right and make a lasting change, especially when you’re standing up against people who are your friends.

But imagine what could happen if no one stands up. Now, imagine how good it will feel to do the right thing! (We can assure you that it will feel a lot better than the alternative.)

Here are nine ways you can stand up to hazing. Get your superhero cape ready. These tips really could change your world.
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1. Just say “no.” This one word is sometimes all it takes.
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2. Host an intervention with those who are hazing.
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Let us show you the error of your ways! 

3. Take confidence that your sisters are likely disturbed, too. Stand up as a group!
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4. Don’t listen to the excuses. We’ve all heard them: “They agreed to do it.” “It’s not a big deal.” “It’s tradition.” LIES!
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5. Listen to your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it!
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6. Tell someone. A simple phone call can be all it takes to stop hazing.
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Talk to an advisor, your campus fraternity/sorority professional, International Office staff, or call 1-888-NOT-HAZE.

7. Plan team-building activities that are safe and fun. Since when did being demeaned make you feel as warm and fuzzy as a trust fall?
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Ok, so not a trust fall (ouch!). How about one of these?

8. Make sure your entire chapter knows the rules and laws about hazing. Ignorance is never an excuse.
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9. If hazing is happening, make a pact to change your chapter/campus culture for the better. Don’t let the cycle continue!
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National Hazing Prevention Week 2013 was Sept. 23-27. To educate our members and others about hazing prevention, Zeta Tau Alpha developed lists (inspired by BuzzFeed) to highlight positive member experiences and combat hazing. While these lists might be funny, hazing is not a joke. Join ZTA to end hazing by doing the right thing, for the right reason, all the time.

What Hollywood has Taught Us About Hazing

Those being hazed are often made to look ridiculous. Even people you never thought could look uncool, like the beloved Zach Morris.
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I bet he wishes the bell would save him about now.
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But hazers usually look stupid too. I mean…who does this? A ketchup dance?
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(clip from “Dazed and Confused”)

It’s never the good guys doing the hazing, just the unlikable characters we love to hate. (P.S. Cloaks are never a good look. #creepy)animal_house_1978_omega_pledge_ceremonyanimal house 1
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Hazing doesn’t actually teach you things that make you a better member, brother or sister. And it makes the chapter look foolish.
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(clip from “Greek”)

The side effects are almost always painful.
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(clip from “Old School”)

Sometimes hazing hurts more than just those being hazed.
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You usually get busted, and that’s never fun. After all, hazing is AGAINST THE LAW in 44 states. You could even get put on the dreaded Double Secret Probation.
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(pic from “Animal House”)

Ever try to get into grad school with a felony on your record?
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It’s not the easy road, that’s for sure.

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So just don’t do it! 
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Friends don’t let friends haze.
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National Hazing Prevention Week 2013 was Sept. 23-27. To educate our members and others about hazing prevention, Zeta Tau Alpha developed lists (inspired by BuzzFeed) to highlight positive member experiences and combat hazing. While these lists might be funny, hazing is not a joke. Join ZTA to end hazing by doing the right thing, for the right reason, all the time.

9 Signs Your Friends are Being Hazed

We hope none of our sisters haze. The goal: for each chapter to offer an amazing, values-based experience to its new members. If you do, sweet! (If you’re not, well, first, recognize hazing is not helping you build sisterhood. Second, just stop.)

However, we know that hazing is a problem that exists beyond ZTA, beyond fraternities and sororities, and even beyond colleges.

Have friends with one or more of the following symptoms? Call the Hazing Hotline 1-888-NOT-HAZE.

1. Older members confuse their car for a taxi.
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2. When they see daylight, they squint.
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3. When they’re in a group, they naturally line up.
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4. They carry weird objects around campus.
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5. They have to ask their “friends” for an autograph.
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6. When you’re studying chemistry, they’re studying the new member manual.
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7. They smell like house cleaning products.
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8. They’ve been wearing the same clothes for a week.
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9. They get dropped off weird places to do purposeless tasks.
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National Hazing Prevention Week 2013 was Sept. 23-27. To educate our members and others about hazing prevention, Zeta Tau Alpha developed lists (inspired by BuzzFeed) to highlight positive member experiences and combat hazing. While these lists might be funny, hazing is not a joke. Join ZTA to end hazing by doing the right thing, for the right reason, all the time.